Tuesday, May 27, 2008

A funny thing happened on the way to my life.

Hope everyone had a great weekend.
I worked, which was cool, I want to work. Although, somehow, it's easier (and harder) than I remember. I trained Thursday and Sunday and Saturday I expo'ed (which is getting the final touches on the food (honey mustard on the side, butter on the potato, that sort of thing) and ran food and was a general helper. It was nice, even if I do feel like the token old person(not true, several people are older than me, I just feel that way.) I didn't expect to find work so quickly, so I'm dealing with end of the school year stuff (and dance recital hoop-la) on top of a brand new work schedule.
On top of which, I'm getting a ton of flack for working.
I do understand. I mean, I'm really lucky. I don't HAVE to work. It isn't about the money at all. It's about me having grown up time, and feeling useful and productive in the process. I have a ton of great friends who I'm fortunate enough to get to spend scads of time with (more often than not, however, we can't finish a two minute conversation due to various I'm thirsty, I'm hungry, she hit me, where's my shoes? -type interruptions.
I am also aware that with my education I could do more than JUST wait tables. But, I like it, it happens to be good money and it won't make me stressed out and sketchy when I am at home.
There are a lot of reasons someone decides to do things, but the simple truth is, I needed something else. I thought about taking a class (I still might do that) I thought about volunteering (ditto, I love to volunteer) but I LIKE to work, I just do.
I love staying home with my kids, but for my sanity, I need to get away from them to appreciate them.
I won't work forever probably, and honestly, I'll probably only work here and there after school starts in the fall, but over the summer, after all three kids, all day long, it will be a relief to get in the car and listen to grown up music for half an hour, and then work more (maybe I should have taken a class!)
I didn't mean to get snarky, but I really think it's unfair to judge some one when you have no idea what's going on with them.
So, it's un-necessary to send me emails telling me that it raises my children's blood pressure when I leave them (for the record, they're with their DAD or their GRAND MOTHER, not a STRANGER) and that any job I have with take away more than it adds to our family.

(stepping down off soapbox)
whew! Sorry 'bout that. I just had a few nasty emails and wanted to address them. Along the same lines, I am going to try and respond to people's comments. I love reading comments on some blogs and I'd like to start that here, if possible.
I had an interesting thought this weekend while I was writing.
When are you at your best?
Are you at your best when you've had enough rest? (ok, sorry, I had to)
or when you're being challenged, are you at your best under pressure?
I'd love to hear when you're at your best.
I think I'm at my best when I'm sleeping. (ok, just kidding)
I'm at my best when I can meditate before I do something. If I have to just start, I usually falter, but when I can mentally prepare, I do so much better. I do pretty well under pressure (now that I'm older and my temper isn't such an issue!)
So, when are you at your best?
Have a great week!


Just the way that I am said...

I am at my best if I am able to step back, take a breath, and evaluate theituation. If that is not possible I can do things well under pressure. Which seems to be motherhood a lot of the time.


Becky said...

I think I'm at my best when I have a lot to do. That may sound crazy, but I'm more focused and productive when there are several things on my to do list. If the list is sparse, I find reasons to procrastinate, be lazy, comment on blogs... hehe!
On a sidenote, kudos to you for working! I may not be a mom yet, but I know that I'll be the same type of mom that just needs to work to stay sane.

Mommy Confidential said...

I know what you mean Dori, I like to have a minute to think as well, but as with many things, Motherhood just makes it more obvious that you don't have that minute.
Bex..I totally agree, a side note! I always get into less trouble when I have more to do! R

PrincessSedai said...

Having opinions on other people's lives when it is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS is one of my BIGGEST pet peeves. I am excited for you and hope you are loving it. The cool thing about life in general is that we can change our minds! If you want to work for a while, great! If you change your mind, great! It is so between you and God and your family, and no one else, so good for you girl!

When am I at my best? When I have a plan broken down into little steps and things run according to that plan. I struggle when there is "tons to do out there and I don't know where to start." That is really really really hard for me, I usually just do nothing. I am at my worst when I am overwhelmed.